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 THE PRIVILEGE OF MAKING DECISIONS.

Very often, we come to think, when a decision taken in the best interests does not bring the desired results, we are not good at making decisions, that we cannot hit a desired target even if it is huge and just a couple of feet away.

Don’t berate yourself; don’t put yourself into an “I’m not good at making decisions because they are all wrong” corner. We have all made decisions that have not brought the desired results. We cannot stop living at that point; we have to go on and continue to make choices and decisions.

Earlier today, I was talking with one of my "senior" students and, as she was going on about some negative issues happening, she said, "These are due to all my bad decisions along the way."

I just looked at her and said, "You know, there are no good or bad decisions, just decisions."

What do I mean by this? Whenever we make a decision, we make it based on the situation at the time, the information we have at that moment about that particular situation, and our assessment then, as to what this decision will mean to us in the future.

No one EVER makes a choice intending for it to have a negative outcome. We constantly make decisions -some routine, some more life impacting- intending to have results which will bring us to a better place than where we stand at that moment.

The eventual outcome of any decision could be one of three: 1) a good outcome, 2) a “no change” outcome, or 3) a negative outcome.

If it is good, all is well. If it is indifferent, you may want to reassess the original decision and make another one at that moment. However, if the outcome has been negative, then you must go through a review of where you now are and make another decision to take a different or modified path, to correct what has not worked.

Does this make the original decision "bad"? No. Just means that it did not bring the desired outcome. That is all. Don't label yourself as a "bad" decision maker; this will create a very negative self-image and will seriously impair your ability to trust yourself in making choices in the future.

Sometimes you may need a good friend or a more experienced, trusted individual to give you some guidance, but in the end, the actual decision will have to be in your hands, not someone else's.

Trust yourself; trust in the fact that you are the best-equipped person to make those decisions that will affect you.

Be Well!!!



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