Thursday, October 24, 2013

It’s Been a While…

Clouds gather… on one side we see dark skies and on the opposite side the promise of light…

How often do we find ourselves in the midst of a “swerve” moment… when forces of nature (whether mother nature or personal nature) can, in a moment’s swing, define an outcome which will probably impact our very lifestyle and future.

The worst feeling, at least for me, is that of impotence; of not really being able to take charge and do our own definition. To have to watch, as a simple bystander, how these forces play upon themselves and perforce, on us. I have learned over the years to observe and to absorb; these are not easy tasks, for they require inaction at times when action seems to be called for. Yet, in some of these very moments, any action at all would bring very negative results.

Some, perhaps most, people would probably say: “Well, it’s better to die trying than to do nothing”… Perhaps so…but, then again, perhaps not. In the same strait is the person who speaks simply because he or she has a dire need to hear someone talking at all times, even when what is being said has no meaning or substance… it becomes just… well, noise. Someone who sees him/herself as a “doer” feels that same unstoppable urge to do, even when doing is not necessarily the right path to follow…

I am far from being a scholar or a philosopher –even when we are all a bit of both, especially the latter- but I do have a heap of years spent dealing with other people, in good, indifferent and bad times. In these “travels” much has been learned and, sadly, it has become quite clear that the old saying that “no one learns from somebody else’s experience” is quite true. That has become a basic understanding of the “learning to observe” part. Very few care to listen to what someone else may be able to say and, as a result, help them avoid what may well be a bad experience.

It has also become clear that the easiest way to eliminate foolish comments or questions is to actually say what you think regarding whatever it is that is being asked or consulted. Usually, this is not conforming to what the other person wants to hear. End of questions…

So… these are the rules I try to follow (not always successfully, I’ll grant) and which have been learned during these years… Of course, this does not refer to idle chit chat… just to sharing one’s experience…

  1. Don’t give an opinion or counsel if this is not asked for;
  2. Say what you think, even if it means the other person may become mad at you;
  3. If you have nothing to say… say nothing;
  4. If you have nothing of value to add, don’t.
  5. The constant sound of your voice is only appealing to you, not necessarily to those around you…
I had these thoughts in mind today… they are now shared with you… I know… maybe I should have kept them to myself…

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