Clouds gather… on one side we see dark skies and on the opposite
side the promise of light…
How often do we find ourselves in the midst of a
“swerve” moment… when forces of nature (whether
mother nature or personal nature) can, in a moment’s swing, define an
outcome which will probably impact our very lifestyle and future.
The worst feeling, at least for me, is that of
impotence; of not really being able to take charge and do our own definition.
To have to watch, as a simple bystander, how these forces play upon themselves
and perforce, on us. I have learned over the years to observe and to absorb;
these are not easy tasks, for they require inaction at times when action seems
to be called for. Yet, in some of these very moments, any action at all would
bring very negative results.
Some, perhaps most, people would probably say:
“Well, it’s better to die trying than to do nothing”… Perhaps so…but, then
again, perhaps not. In the same strait is the person who speaks simply because
he or she has a dire need to hear someone talking at all times, even when what
is being said has no meaning or substance… it becomes just… well, noise.
Someone who sees him/herself as a “doer” feels that same unstoppable urge to
do, even when doing is not necessarily the right path to follow…
I am far from being a scholar or a philosopher
–even when we are all a bit of both, especially the latter- but I do have a
heap of years spent dealing with other people, in good, indifferent and bad
times. In these “travels” much has been learned and, sadly, it has become quite
clear that the old saying that “no one learns from somebody else’s experience”
is quite true. That has become a basic understanding of the “learning to
observe” part. Very few care to listen to what someone else may be able to say
and, as a result, help them avoid what may well be a bad experience.
It has also become clear that the easiest way to
eliminate foolish comments or questions is to actually say what you think
regarding whatever it is that is being asked or consulted. Usually, this is not
conforming to what the other person wants to hear. End of questions…
So… these are the rules I try to follow (not always successfully, I’ll grant) and
which have been learned during these years… Of course, this does not refer to
idle chit chat… just to sharing one’s experience…
- Don’t give an opinion or counsel if this is not asked for;
- Say what you think, even if it means the other person may become
mad at you;
- If you have nothing to say… say nothing;
- If you have nothing of value to add, don’t.
- The constant sound of your voice is only appealing to you, not
necessarily to those around you…
I had these thoughts in mind today… they are
now shared with you… I know… maybe I should have kept them to myself…
Be
Well … Be Back!!!
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